Forge your way forward

Updated: Oct 17





When I think back on my life, I remember creating so much of my own problems, where in truth there was never much of a problem. When I awakened to the truth, somewhere in my early forties, I realized I had wasted so much time agonizing over trivial circumstances.


Most of these were centered around how other people saw me, comparing myself to others and above all trying to be something I am not.

Perhaps one of the most important bit of advice I have received is this:

This too shall pass.

Somethings will hurt like crazy, sting, and mess with your confidence, but in time it will pass and the sting will lighten up.

In the meantime, you find a strength that you didn't even know you had. I believe it is during these hard times in our lives when we acquire this strength.


At the time, in my twenties and thirties, I wanted to live from a place of integrity, yet could not seem to find my way there. I got in my own way time and time again. I tried to perceive myself as a powerful woman, yet felt inside like a weak girl, who was seeking her self worth from outside circumstances.


Throughout my spiritual journey, I learned yet another valuable truth: I had to surrender to a source bigger then myself and seek my power from within, instead of outside.

Guilt and regret are weight on your wings, let them go.

Dream Big. Don't play small. You have a unique light that wants to shine and glow and guide you. Don't dim that light for anyone. Ever.

Love hard with every ounce of your being. Love with every fiber of who you are. Dont dilute it or avoid it, due to fear. To love, you will also know hurt and loss. One thing I have learned and continue to daily, is that there are no rules in Love. It will sneak up on you. Love anyway.

Listen to your creative spirit. Your soul wants to sing a song only you know. Nurture each and every creative calling that comes your way. I have learned to paint, draw and write stories while I have been home over the past six months with Ella. We also embarked on creating our own jewelry, experimenting and testing out different styles.

Don't stay stuck, raise the bar for yourself. You will change and learn and grow. Don't contain your colors or restrict your movements. At different ages you will have different urges.

Go with the flow, trust the inner voice in your core. Explore and play. Let life show you its wonder.

Learn to let go. People and possessions will pass through your life, one day you will look back and know exactly why. Some will come into your life for a short season, and that is okay. I have had friends like this who have taught me insights, and seem to vanish, moving on to the next step on their own journey.


Welcome this, be willing to see the role they played and why it is important. After all, we are all just walking each other home.


In Peace and Love,


Barbara xo

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