" YOU BECOME REAL. IT TAKES A LONG TIME. THAT'S WHY IT DOESN'T HAPPEN OFTEN TO PEOPLE WHO BREAK EASILY OR HAVE SHARP EDGES OR WHO HAVE TO BE CAREFULLY KEPT. BY THE TIME YOU ARE REAL, MOST OF OUR HAIR HAS BEEN LOVED OFF, AND YOUR EYES DROP OUT AND YOU GET LOOSE IN YOUR JOINTS AND VERY SHABBY.
BUT THOSE THINGS DON'T MATTER AT ALL, BECAUSE ONCE YOU ARE REAL, YOU CANT BE UGLY, EXCEPT TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T UNDERSTAND."
~The Velveteen Rabbit
The most satisfying element of getting older ( and wiser) for me has undoubtedly been "becoming real." What does this actually mean, you may ask?
Shedding the mask that I used to wear, to cover up my true personality, in order to please people. Perhaps not saying what I really thought just to avoid conflict. Never really honoring or even knowing the things that made me the happiest in life.
I began to be more receptive and alert, instead of being so wrapped up in my thoughts and too busy to pay attention. Intentionally choosing to live in my truth, aligning my words and actions with my values of kindness, fairness and respect for myself and others.
This process of coming into my self fully has been sometimes uncomfortable and unpleasant. Yet, over time as I have acknowledged and accepted my strengths and flaws, through growth I have learned to trust my inner voice.
Every day I set out to be kind, loving and true to who I am. There are times when this is challenging, however I try and look at life's lows as lessons to do my best and attempt to see the light which may or may not be at the end. I have started following my curiosity, follow my urges and pay closer attention to what excites me and to my dreams.
Through honesty and integrity my life has become real. People may not always agree with my style, or enthusiasm but that is not my concern or cross to bear.
I believe to "become real" first to yourself, is key, and then to others is life's most important challenge. True authencity is trusting and loving your
heart enough to appreciate what makes you, special, and honoring your truth.
When expressing yourself in such a way, we are finally able to detach from needing others approval by honoring our inner peace and gaining a sense of confidence that only comes from living from a place of integrity.
IN Peace and Love~